Anolakhi
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| | Friday, October 14, 2005 - 4:22 pm: | 
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(a pirisqatIlaa ]<ar kayaÆ
navara baayakÜÊ 4 - 5 vaYaa-puvaI- lagna Jaalao. Arranged Marraige mauLo kahI vaYa-M ekmaokaMXaI jamavaUna GaoNyaat gaolaI. dÜGaancao ekmaokaMvar AtIXaya p`oma. pNa baayakÜlaa
maulaM hvaI Aahot AaiNa navayaa-laa kQaIca nakÜt. (a p`XNaaiXavaaya dÜGaaMcyaat kahIhI tMTa naahIÊ kTuta
naahI. AXyaa vaoLI baayakÜnao kaya kravaoÆ inaGaUna jaavao kaÆ tumhI laÜk kaya saucavaalaÆ
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Manuswini
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| | Friday, October 14, 2005 - 5:24 pm: |
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yaa ivaYyaavar AaQaI³ before maariage casual discussion of kids liking,family expectations ´ baÜlaNaM ikMvaa saMvaad naahI Jaalaa kaÆ
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Ô> baayakÜnao inaGauna jaavaoÊ Asaa p`Xna kaÆ navaáyaanao inaGauna jaavao kaÊ Asao tumhI ka ivacaarlao
naahIÆ
AsaÜÊ maulaM hvaIt ho malaa vaaTtM ek gaRhItk Aaho ³inadana Aaplyaa saMskRtImaQyao trI´Ê maulaM nakÜt
ha ivacaar lagnaanaMtr ekaekI saucat nasaavaaÊ %yaamauLo tXaI jaÜDIdaralaa lagnaaAaQaI klpnaa Vayalaa
hvaI. [qao tXaI klpnaa idlaI nasaola tr baayakÜnao Aaplao mhNaNao yaonakonap`karoNa ³p`omaÊ Qama@yaaÊ
]pÜYaNaÊ hrtaL .´ navaáyaalaa pTvauna Vavao.
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Maitreyee
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| | Friday, October 14, 2005 - 6:06 pm: |
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[qao navaáyaanao lagnaa AaQaI klpnaa doNao garjaocao hÜto. pNa Aata dÜGaaMcao p`oma Aaho ekmaokavar tr
cacao-nao ha p`Xna saÜDvata yaola .kuNaI trI ek na@kI samajaUna Gao] Xakola Asao vaaTto. ³kuNaIca´ inaGaUna
vagaOro jaaNyaacaa ivacaar krNao barÜbar naahI vaaTt.
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AnaÜLKIÊ Kr saaMgaU ka Æ AamhI [qao (a ivaYayaavar kaqyaakUT kolaa naÊ trI tumhcyaa %yaa navara baayakÜ
laa Kr mhNajao kahI Ôrk pDNaar naahI Aaho.
ho p`YNa jyaanao %yaanao saÜDvaayacao Asatat. ek cacaa- mhNauna (a ivaYayaa kDo baGata yao[laÊ pNa [qao
jao discuss hÜtM AahoÊ %yaanaI %yaa dÜGaaMnaa kahI madt hÜ[la Asa malaa vaaTt naahI.
raihlaI gaÜYT maulaM hvaI nakÜt (a ba_la. ekanao namatM GaoNa Baaga Aaho. mhNajao lagna iTkvaayacaM Asaola
tr. tovha baayakÜ laa maUla ka hva Aaho AaiNa navaáyaalaa ka nakÜ Aaho ho %yaa dÜGaaM ekmaokaMnaa samajaUna
AaiNa samajaavaUna GaotlaM trca kahI solution saapDola.
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Sayonara
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| | Friday, October 14, 2005 - 8:56 pm: |
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(a situation maQyao Gar saÜDUna jaa}na kaya imaLNaar AahoÆ AaiNa jar ekmaokaMvar KUp p`oma Asaola tr Xa@ya Aaho kaM
toÆ %yaapoxaa basaUna baÜlaNaM AaiNa %yaatUna maaga- XaÜQaNaM haca ekmaova ]paya.
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Neelu_n
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| | Saturday, October 15, 2005 - 7:41 am: |
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jaovaNa krNaar naahI ikMvaa Garatlao kamaca krNaar naahI AXaI p`omaL QamakI dovauna baGaa hvaI tr 
AnaÜLKIÊ jaÜkba_la saa^rI pNa ekmaokaMXaI jauLvauna Gyaalaa 45 vaYa- laagatatÆ AaiNa trIhI AitXaya p`omaÆ
yaacaaca maoL basat naahI pihlaa. AitXaya p`oma Asaanaayaa-Mnaa yaovaZa vaoL nai@kca laagalaa nasata.
yaatuna tD\jaÜiDnao kahItrI inaNa-ya Gaovauna evhanaa to AaMnaMdanao rahIlao Asato.
AaiNa trIhI tD\jaÜiDnao jar maaga- inaGat nasaolaÊ AaiNa %yaa baa[t tovaZI ihmmat Asaola tr itnao sarL
eKad maula d<ak Gyaavao kI.
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Anolakhi
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| | Saturday, October 15, 2005 - 12:32 pm: |
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sorry...it should have been 4-5 years...sorry about the confusion...
regardless, I really like maayboli and I was expecting some serious perspective from other people on a very real problem...looks like people just want to joke about it...I guess I was expecting too much...
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dÜGaanaahI why-why analysis krayalaa saaMgaa . they will find root cause. jokes apart
ha AitXaya vaOyai>k p`Xna Aaho ....... AaiNa navaáyaabaayakÜcyaa vaadat pDu naka Asao kÜiNatrI mhNauna
gaolao Aahoca....... gaMBaIrpNao ivacaar kolaa tr %yaat Ajauna ek pOlau Aaho. navara saxama Aaho ka .....
navaáyaalaa ho lagnaa AaQaI maahIt Asauna to %yaanao saaMigatlao naahI vagaOro naahI Asao Jaalao Aaho
ka.... karNa it is dificult to believe that both of them love each other & sill there is difrence on such issue..... baakI kaya sagaLo izk Asaola tr baayakÜcyaa hatat p`baÜQana krNao ca ]rto.jasao ik maula nasalaolyaaMcaI
eka zraivak vayaanaMtrcaI Asvasqata.... maanasaÜpcaart&aMcaIhI madt Gyaayalaa hrkt naahI
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Megha16
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| | Monday, October 17, 2005 - 3:46 pm: |
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maI pNa mahoXa cyaa matala sahmat Aaho . navara baayakÜcyaa BaaMD\Naat kÜNaI pDu nayao Ê ha %yaaMcaa vaya>Ik
p`Xna Aaho .
pNa trI malaa hI ho ca saaMgaavasa vaaTt kI jara QaIranao kama Gyaava . Gar saÜDuna jaanao ha %yaavar
]paya naahI . %yaat dÜGaaMca nauksaana Aaho . baayakÜnao navaryaalaa p`omaanao samajauna saaMgaava . %yaalaa
maula ka nakÜ yaacyaa maagaca karNa jaaNauna GaoNyaacaa p`ya%na kravaa .karNa tÜ naahI m*Nat Aaho yaalaa
pNa kahI karna Asaola na@kIca . %yaanausaar ca puZ\cao pa]la Takvao . dÜGaMnaI ek~ basauna ha p`Xna saÜD\vaayala
hvaa . na@kI p`Xna sauTola .
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Manuswini
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| | Monday, October 17, 2005 - 9:18 pm: |
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anolakhi,
dont feel bad if some people here make it appear as joke. take it easy.
You will get used to it.:-)
as for your issue I THINK , OPEN COMMUNICATION.
you said "love a lot" then why there is gap in communication.
why you fear to raise topic?
why you come to this thought of leaving him?
have you tried any of above options to open him up if he has some fears ? or is he hiding any his issues?
talk nicely, gently. may be that will help.
All the best!!
manuswini
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Kandapohe
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| | Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 12:30 am: |
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manaÁisvanaI ha p`XNa AnaÜLKIcaa Aaho Asao tulaa ka vaaTlaoÆ
Kro tr ha p`XNa Ku_ %yaa navara baayakÜnao p`omaL saMvaadatuna saÜDvaayalaa hvaa Aaho. pNa to na hÜta
f> BaaMDNao hÜt Aahot Asao vaaTto.
baáyaaca vaoLa maI ivacaar krtanaa svaÁta AXaa prIsqaItIt kaya kolao Asato ho baGatÜ. malaa trI Gar saÜDuna
jaaNao ha ]paya vaaTt naahI. %yaapoxaa maulao ka nakÜ Aahot %yaacaI krNao ³p`oma Asaola tr´ samajaavauna
Gyaaivat. navaáyaacaI kahI XaarIirk duba-lataÊ kahI maanaisak ADcaNa Aaho ka yaacaI Ka~I kÉna GaoNao AavaXyak
Aaho. XaarIirk krNa Asaola tr d<ak GaoNao ikMvaa ToT T\yauba baobaI saarKo ]paya ivacaarat Gyaavao.
maula nakÜ AsaNao ho saÜDuna jaaNyaa krta karNa Asauca Xakt naahI.
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Manuswini
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| | Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 1:12 am: |
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KP maI kuzo mhTlao ik ha p`XNa f> AnaÜLiKcaa ³ca´ Aaho ..
tulaa kaya mhNaayacao Aaho Æ
tulaa vaaTlao ka malaa confusion Jaalao ka kÜiNa post kolao (acao ÆÆ
maI tr always Asaaca ivacaar krtoya ik what if I am in that situation, how would I handle? that gives me better vision I guess before any suggestion.
and honestly, anolakhi, finally a THIRD is THIRD PERSON they would not know intricacies of your relationship.
maI tr AnaÜLiKlaa mhTlao ik you should handle this question gently, try to open up(speak up) WITH your husband. sometimes OPEN communication is lacking in even though you feel you are close to that person or assuming he would understand.
and there could be possibility that husband might have his own delicate reservations like physical, mental or whatsoever. and this needs to be gently handled without hurting his feelings if any related with physical porblem. and he does not want to be touched to the topic out of fear.
there is no point in fighting.
if you guys love then you can face to face talk. LEAVING is NOT a resort.
to itqao vartI laÜkM caoYTa krtayaot ..
ha gaMiBar p`XNa Aaho ho to laxaat Gaot naahI ... Co²
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